Being comfortable in your own body is very important. It is a seriously important issue these days, related to things like self-esteem and eating disorders (eating too much or too little).
So many people are self conscious or hate their own bodies because of perfectly natural things that they have no control over. Like nose or eye shape. Or even things like skin color (even without the racism part it’s ridiculous) like how tan or pale they are, stupid little things that they cannot change, well, cannot change easily, at least.
I, unfortunately, am one of these self-conscious people with low self esteem that is always hating on her own body. I don’t like my shape, skin colour, the way I work, the proportion of most of my facial features (I say most because I actually like my mouth, lips and teeth, which is odd I know). If you meet me, I may seem confident and not caring but I actually care a hell of a lot more than people realise. And I think this is a serious issue for so many people, typically teenagers, but for all genders, not just girls.
I know that I am going to be a total hypocrite in the rest of this post because I also am so uncomfortable in my own skin (literally) but I feel like I need to get this out even if no one reads it.
No, before you interrupt reading this with your unbelieving or judgmental thoughts, I am not about to tell you that you are perfect or that you don’t need to change because I don’t know you or your ‘flaws’ whatsoever. I just want to tell you to accept yourself. Just accept that that is the body that you have and you are stuck with it so the easiest thing to do is to just love yourself. I am not saying you can’t change yourself. You can easily lose weight, fake tan, get plastic surgery (well, not cheap or easy but still possible) or do whatever you want to change your appearance. But just try to not hate yourself.
No matter what size, shape you are, just learn to love yourself and you will become a happier and more confident person.
Simple. As. That.
I have a friend. He is average looking I guess, average weight, maybe a little bit on the chubbier size and he is always telling us how ugly he is. But at the same time he has no shame and is so confident in himself all the time. He will flaunt his body how he sees fit and I just love it.
The other day he asked my other friend who paints really well, to paint him nude. And I was like ‘what???!!!’ And they actually did it!! Well, semi nude at least, he kept his underwear on. But that requires a lot of self-confidence to be able to show off your almost naked self for so long. (Also, please don't ask why I was there, that is a whole other story.)
And the painting actually looks amazing. The nice pose where he is hiding his private area, and the nice rainbow background. It makes me wish I could paint people. But I struggle drawing trees so I guess it's just not for me!! :)
So, the point of that story, was that even though he wasn't the best looking, he doesn’t have the muscles and abs that everyone drools over, he was still okay with himself, enough so to strip in front of his female friends (not with the desire to get laid). Pretty amazing.
